Healing from narcissistic abuse requires that we get out of the cycle of trying to receive emotional sustenance from the narcissist. They can’t give it to us. Which is a big part of how we became so wounded through them in the first place. Break the downward spiral of trying to get the narcissistic person to realize how much they’ve hurt you. They can’t face it because they’re too badly wounded themselves in ways they barely even realize let alone have the tools to deal with. It’s time for us to cut our losses and move on. In time, we will heal, no thanks to the narc.